8 Reasons Why You Need To Man Up And Take Responsibility For Your Life
When we are little we are cute and innocent and our biggest goal is to learn through play, relationships and experiences. We are taught to listen to our parents, to be nice to our siblings, not to hit or pull hair. We are encouraged to be kind and to apologize when we do something wrong.
We go to school where we are taught to follow the rules, not to tattle on anyone and to conform to the school policy and culture. We learn to look past things that bother us because to deal with them would cause conflict.
We graduate to middle school and begin to compare ourselves to others, affecting our self esteem and causing us to learn the fine art of gossiping, blaming and denial. We see this big crowded world as an intimidating place where things happen to us, a place where we have no control, and we don´t. Kids usually are not taught to feel autonomous, to feel in control of their destiny and in charge of their actions and the consequences that follow.
As teens we learn the almighty power of taking our freedom away. The grounding is painful especially when there is a party we want to go to but cant. The natural response for a teen is blame, the parents are being meen, their friends talked them into it, it was an accident, they didn’t mean to do it, they forgot. Rarely, if ever do teens say to themselves well I created this situation and now I am experiencing the consequences. I wonder what I could have done differently to get a different result and what I need to do in the future so that i don’t land in this position again.
As adults we have gone through the formative years not really learning to succeed, to have a fulfilling life and how to get what we want. The result is divorce, depression, drinking to much, stress, anxiety, not reaching goals, not having goals, achieving less that your potential and much much more. You can fill in the blancs.
So what can you do to fix this problem? You can begin to take responsibility for your life.
You can stop the blame game because everything you experience you created by past action. You can start saying how you really feel, speaking up in meetings, having an opinion and learning to say no when you are overwhelmed.
You can start looking at your life from a different angle. Take a moment to look back at your life so that you can discover how had you taken different actions, made different decisions, reacted in a different way how your life would be different.
Hey we all make mistakes. What makes the difference is how we deal with them. So the next time your spouse has been getting on your nerves don’t tell a friend let your spouse know. If you are in a meeting and have to disagree with the decisions being made speak up. If you are overwhelmed speak to the person that can change the situation and learn to say no.
You are the only one in responsible for your life so take charge and make it a good one.
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Drifa Ulfarsdottir ACC CPC , founder and CEO of Balanced Mompreneur is a Associate Professional Coach specializing in work life balance and has been a member of the International Coaching Federation a regulating body for the coaching industry since 2010. She helps busy mompreneurs stop the tug of war between their families. By using her simple solutions mompreneurs can find more time for themselves, their families and their business so they become better mothers, wives, sisters,daughters friends and business owners
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